How to Lick the Edge of Your Comfort Zone
Unless you know what it looks like in your weak moments of conformity, all you can ever hope for is insight by hindsight. Your comfort zone seduces you with quick efficiency. You know that the boundary exists. You know that it deceives you. But do you know how to beat it?
These days anyone can claim something without being challenged. Maybe fact-checking is boring, but it beats ignorance. We can assert all we want about ourselves, but that won’t make what we say about ourselves true.
We can say that we are open minded without ever needing to act like it. We can say that we are confident while pandering to every external whim. We can tell ourselves that we are really doing well as we scrape somewhere near our bottom-end. And then we can tell ourselves that we have found spiritual enlightenment because we learned to lower our standards and dismiss the voice that challenges our fears. Just to justify the box we like to call our pride and joy.
In our age of immediate gratification and high speed information, you will learn most things from other people by symbolic representations: letters, words and sentences. But when you want to apply your new learnings in the actual world, the letters, words and sentences won’t help you much. The understandings must be realized and moved into action.
Your comfort zone won’t announce itself to you in the way that is most convenient. It will pamper you and coddle you with its superficial rewards. And you will notice it only once it is too late.
If you want the ability to spontaneously break out of your box, you need to know what your box feels like. You need to know what its tricks feel like. You need to know what its impulses feel like, so that you can deny your programming and leap the other way.
If you look for it with labels and words, or concepts and pictures, you will perpetually lag behind. In order to learn what the regressive impulse of your comfort zone feels like, so that you can catch it and reverse it, you will have to pay close attention.
There are many ways to train your mind and sharpen your attention, but the critical thing is for you to discover for yourself what your comfort zone tastes like.
I don’t believe in fear. Fear is a signal that informs us of the proximity of danger. Danger is a signal that informs us of the proximity of a catastrophe. Fear is the energy your body releases when you thread the boundary. It’s your body telling you: “Hey, by the way, we have not been here before. You might need this!”
The taste of your comfort zone is the boundary signal. It’s what you experience before you can form any words, or thoughts, or ideas, or pictures, or sounds when you approach the edge of your perimeter. And by familiarizing yourself with the signal on a precognitive level, you can turn breaking your box into default reflex.